Tatler editor opens up about becoming a mother at 46.
The glamorous and successful editor of English Tatler has spoken about her struggle to become a mother and her experiences with IVF.
During the filming of the documentary ‘Posh People: Inside Tatler’, Kate Reardon may have looked the picture of style and class, but she was hiding the heartache of trying to have IVF babies in her mid-40s.
“A 46-year-old woman is unlikely to have babies without a lot of highly-trained medical assistance,” she said. “So I spent a year having IVF.”
Reardon, who gave birth to twins last year, told of her IVF struggle in a speech at her former school, Stowe in Buckinghamshire, telling pupils how remaining cheerful can help people overcome adversity in life.
Reardon told the students that neither her staff, nor the TV crew that were filming, knew what she was going through.
Instead she says she hid her sadness and remained “cheery and fun” as IVF attempt after attempt failed.
“I would have to sneak out of meetings and inject myself in the bathroom at work,” she said. “And month after month I didn’t get pregnant. The point of telling you this is that I was forced to control my thoughts.
“Every single morning I had to walk into that office and be a glossy magazine editor. I had to come up with fun ideas in public. I had to be cheery, see the funny side and have a laugh.”
“Every time it didn’t work I felt as though I was being swallowed by a black hole of misery.”
“Fertility treatment is without doubt the toughest thing I have ever done. It’s the closest I will ever come to being truly heroic,” she said.
Reardon began her career at US Vogue as its youngest ever fashion assistant, and later became fashion director of Tatler at 21. She became editor in 2010.
Her advice to people in similar situations? “Fake it till you make it.”